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It's not only some autistics that can struggle to overcome bedwetting, it can happen with all children, some of them right up into their teens. Whilst I describe it as something to overcome, for the parents & carers, it's more like something to survive without completely losing your mind! Not exactly cv worthy but, I do consider myself to have extensive & unwanted experience in this regard having three children, all of whom have struggled or still struggle. Having learned what I know & now pass on to you, I do so through doing all the wrong things, ah-hem. P.S....

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I often hear autism parents saying things like "...if only they would make some small adjustments...it would make such a difference..." & I often read pleas from autism parents to asd support groups for friends for their autistics. My own personal plea is for all other parents (the ones of neurotypical children) to please, please, please just ask the mum/parent before you think to yourself ...oh, I won't invite him/her because they probably won't want to come anyway &/or wouldn't cope. You may well be right but trust me, you have no idea how much it means to simply be...

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Something most people believe autistics lack. Not true. All autistics are different though, so true.  The definition of empathy is "the ability to understand and share the feelings of another". Perhaps the difficulty with this lies in the word 'understanding'. Autistics' brains are wired differently & the 'what' and 'how' they understand our feelings is probably varied & very different from the way we understand them. I often feel that people think I live this exhausting (true) thankless life where I get nothing back from my non-verbal son Henry making them wonder how on earth I cope with it all....

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I know what you're thinking...how could a middle-aged (I loathe this term) mum of three (one being non-verbal autistic) ever get out? And right you are, I almost never get out, like many other parents, & it's not always lack of options or invitations or will, most often it's my choice! Maybe middle-aged is the right term, yikes. A couple of weeks ago I attended a super jeudgsh event that I had said 'yes' to, for once, because well, that Christmas vibe is fast approaching, all those glitzy dresses in stores & online hinting at all the fun to be...

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A student once asked me this after I gave a talk to some grannies that visited & were entertained each week by the VSU (voluntary service) students at their school. I was a bit flummoxed at the time & babbled some vague reply. One thing to point out is that autistics, just like everyone else, have their own individual personalities & let's face it, certain personality types, all toddlers & most teens do not like being told 'no' either! It really got me thinking though & what a missed opportunity. Here was a teenage boy genuinely interested to learn how...

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